I don’t think people understand that my body needs to get a certain amount of sleep. I cannot just skip those hours or I’ll be out of commission for the next week. It doesn’t work like that for the chronically ill. Skipping sleep isn’t easy or doable or a simple solution. It is an impossibility.
Anonymous asked: I can't remember how I stumbled across your blog but it's been a real eye opener & now I never miss a post. Thanks for being so funny, sincere, and educational. I'm not submissive. I have never felt that need to submit or give up control, but I'm so intrigued and almost jealous of the intimacy (in general- not just the sex -but the sex too) and closeness that couples in D/s seem to experience I feel like I'm willing to try. Can you learn to be submissive if it's not part of your nature to do so?
I think submissiveness is like blondness—you is or you ain’t.
That said, the intimacy is a result of explicit and open partnership—the “I’ll handle this, you handle that” exchange.
And you don’t have to be a pushover outside the bedroom to be submissive. Just consider there may be things about yourself you still have to learn, and be open to that.